This is the public group instrumental rationality diary for the week of June 4th. It's a place to record and chat about it if you have done, or are actively doing, things like:
Established a useful new habit
Obtained new evidence that made you change your mind about some belief
Decided to behave in a different way in some set of situations
Optimized some part of a common routine or cached behavior
Consciously changed your emotions or affect with respect to something
Consciously pursued new valuable information about something that could make a big difference in your life
Learned something new about your beliefs, behavior, or life that surprised you
Tried doing any of the above and failed
Or anything else interesting which you want to share, so that other people can think about it, and perhaps be inspired to take action themselves. Try to include enough details so that everyone can use each other's experiences to learn about what tends to work out, and what doesn't tend to work out.
I noticed three interesting parts of me which I haven't yet explored.
Bringing groceries back to my car, I remembered I forgot an item. So I walked back into the store, became embarrassed, walked the long way around so my previous cashier definitely wouldn't see me, took the item, walked the long way around again, and used the self-checkout. Weird. My current theory is that part of me is very averse to status hits from what-I-perceive-as-deserved ridicule.
Hearing someone talk about her mother pull the bs "well if you don't have time to talk to me I guess I'll just never call you so I don't waste your valuable time" guilt trip thing, I remembered and was very strongly affected by the rememberance of one of the (commendably few) times my mother said something meta-similar during an argument. Much stronger than I would have predicted. I have no model for this yet.
Someone prodded me to realize I am now in and around far fewer arguments than most people. Few enough that the Umeshism heuristic says it's worth investigating whether I'm in too few arguments, and what's causing that. My current theory is that part of me is scared of loud, intense, serious arguments from early experiences and takes steps to head them off. It's also possible I'm just a badass mediator or something but that's somewhat less likely.
This is the public group instrumental rationality diary for the week of June 4th. It's a place to record and chat about it if you have done, or are actively doing, things like:
Or anything else interesting which you want to share, so that other people can think about it, and perhaps be inspired to take action themselves. Try to include enough details so that everyone can use each other's experiences to learn about what tends to work out, and what doesn't tend to work out.
Thanks to everyone who contributes!
(Previously: 5/14/12, 5/21/12, 5/28/12)