What qualifies as "stable"? How many years have they been together?
In general I treat any relationship lasting more than about five years without a major destabilizing crisis as stable. The relationships I'm thinking about... hm. I'd estimate the mean to be about seven years. Of course, the mean relationship time of my cohort increases as I get older.
It's also worth asking how one should treat open relationships. That is, I know a lot of stable couples who have had third and fourth parties involved in their relationship for a year or two or four; I don't consider those stable triads or quads, but neither do I consider the...
A thought occurred to me today as I skimmed an article in a rationality forum where the subject of gay marriage cropped up; seeing as the issue has been hotly contested in various public fora and especially the courts, what about poly? After all, many if not all the arguments for gay marriage apply to poly marriage as well.
Questions for LWers who are currently in a such a relationship, or have an opinion to share:
Do polies want to marry each other or do such relationships not lend themselves to permanence above a threshold of partners? Should polies campaign for the right for a civil union anyway? what are the up and down sides of this? etc