Thought experiment: I'm your boss, and you make me some coffee. We are working together on something in my office and another employee comes in to visit. "This is really good coffee", I say to the employee who came in, but I make no mention of the fact that you made it.
Do you feel appreciated? I'm indicating pleasure for something you did, but I'm not assigning you any status for it.
That doesn't correspond to what I am thinking. It would be more like me flashing a smile and saying thank you for you holding the door open while I am carrying a large package. I appreciate your effort, but no relative status message is given.
Or, if you absolutely must insist on making it about status, you can say that I'm sending the message we are equals, which might be either status-raising or status-lowering, depending on your perception of the situation. However, since the original context concerns peer feedback, the point is pretty irrelevant: we ...
From the Harvard Business Review, an article entitled: "Can We Reverse The Stanford Prison Experiment?"
By: Greg McKeown
Posted: June 12, 2012
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Summary:
Royal Canadian Mounted Police attempt a program where they hand out "Positive Tickets"
This idea can be applied to Real Life