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What? They do. (My father is eight years older than my mother.) And maybe it'd be better if they didn't.
Indeed, I've often witnessed women apparently suddenly lose all interest in a man as soon as they found out he was younger than them, whereas I've never seen the reverse (except in an “I don't think she would ever get with me since she found out I'm this young, so I won't even try” fashion) -- the men I know (incl. myself) don't seem to care how old a woman actually is, so long as she looks attractive. BTW, “you look younger” (“older”) is usually taken to be a compliment (an insult) here in Italy.
If that OKCupid author isn't being wilfully dishonest, then he is just an awful thinker. Just as an example, he cites the higher frequency at which old female OKCupid users get tested for STDs as an example of why young guys should be more open to dating them.
I can't see anything obviously wrong with that reasoning.
I believe that knb doesn't understand the difference between getting tested for STDs, and having STDs. Getting tested is something that every sexually active person should do occasionally, with a possible exception for long-term monogamous couples. (although even then, it's not a bad idea.)
Actually, I had interpreted what he says to mean that one advantage of dating older women is that they are less likely to have undetected STDs, since they get tested for them more often.
The older women still on these dating sites are those who didn't get married and have racked up large numbers of sex partners over the years.
So it isn't really surprising that young men who are looking for relationships would avoid women who are especially concerned about sex diseases and avoided (or were rejected) for long-term commitments.
C'mon, 50% of the population have IQs below 100. :-) (And some of the older women might be recently divorced/widowed ones.)
(Still, I don't think your comment should be downvoted. Upvoted back to 0, because you still mentioned an issue I hadn't thought about.)
I knew these comments would be downvoted. Less Wrong has proven unable to have a genuine discussion about relationships. These issues cut people too deeply.