And the women. The ones being dehumanized. Who are they hanging out with?

You are reading a little more judgment into the post that I think is intended.

The women (and people generally) that are going to be enjoyable to spend time with are not hanging out with the hyper-masculine jocks. There's no shame in noticing that, and picking social groups accordingly in order to try to find social companions. Particularly because the jocks are particularly poor at being reflective about their own social skills and the social skills of others.