Disclaimer: I have read very little romance. Also I'm not particularly into the dominance/submission dynamic.

Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice is the O.G. of romance novels. It's funny and engaging and has well-drawn characters. No dominance stuff though.

Margaret Mitchell's Gone with the Wind is a good read (with obvious cultural baggage) that has a bit of this dynamic between Rhett and Scarlett.

Ayn Rand's The Fountainhead is not a romance per se, but the romantic subplot is full of power games.

Rand is a love-or-hate author. If you read the first chapter and you don't like it you probably won't like the rest. If you decide not to read the whole book, though, then before putting it down you might as well skip ahead to the (in)famous scene in Chapter II of Part 2. Trigger warning for sex that a fly on the wall would find indistinguishable from rape.

Sharon Shinn writes speculative fiction, and most of it's pretty heavy on the romance, all heterosexual so far as I can remember. I don't know if it'll push your BDSM buttons - there's nothing explicitly like that I can think of, although she does tend to throw characters into weird not-necessarily-sexual power dynamics, does that count? Start with Archangel.

Kushiel's Dart (but not the sequels). The worldbuilding is delightful.