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If anyone has decided to ignore me, I invite them to tell me why in PM or here. As for reasons I ignore people: Too many comments is the biggest one. High frustration level with communicating my perspectives to people I find it difficult to communicate to (all reasons) is the second one. My frustration level waxes and wanes. I will try to communicate to just about anyone on a good day, and ignore everybody on a bad day, and there are days in between. Sorry to anyone I have not gotten back to. If you were really hoping for a response or for resolution, you are free to ping me about it.
This statement seems pointless and/or absurd for all purposes that are not your own signaling purposes.
I'm not sure whether you're telling me "I think this is status signaling and so I disagree with it." or "I disagree with you inviting people to tell you if they're ignoring you". (Not sure what your reason would be if it was the second one.)
I was told by someone that I was annoying to other users. Maybe just a personal opinion but since I have received that criticism, and it is possible that somebody is ignoring me due to being annoyed, it made sense to me to open a communication channel.
If someone is ignoring you, they will probably not stop ignoring you to tell you why. That's what "ignoring" means.
I see why you think it's pointless now. I think a lot of times, people ignore others instead of giving them feedback because they're concerned that it will be rude to state their problem or because they assume the other person will be stubborn. I am much more likely to ignore a stubborn person and much more likely to give feedback instead if I know a person is open to it.
For me, that's a major factor, so I figure there must be people like me.
Mind you, perfect 'ignoring' isn't something people are especially good at. Many people will answer that question. If you happened to be interested in what such people may tell you it could be worthwhile to ask. The private vs public distinction also matters for many who are aware that giving that kind of public criticism can tend to negatively impact the reputation of the speaker as well as the recipient.
Not necessarily. I avoid replying to some people in public due to the futility of it and to avoid any drama, but I would certainly reply to a PM.
Someone could be deliberately not making public replies to an user out of experience of public threads with that user often turning into messes, while still thinking that the user isn't a deliberate troll and could benefit from private advice.
If I happen to be this "someone" I would appreciate the private advice.