Perhaps it is easier to debug your approach to specific goals, than your general cognitive algorithm. For example, are you having trouble getting laid? Finding people to play board games with? Getting your room-mates to do the dishes without massive drama? Staying off the drugs that dull the pain?

If there is a specific issue, that's both easier to give advice about and easier to measure your success with; rewriting your whole utility function is perhaps not the place to start.