I don't think fubarobfusco's claim is that claimed offense ends the discussion in favor of the claimant.
In that case I recommend you reread fubarobfusco's post. His whole point is that if someone objects to the offense claim that means the person doing the objecting has psychological issues.
But your position appears to be that Bob's statement is no evidence at all.
Your repeated strawmanning of my position is not conducive to reasonable debate.
His whole point is that if someone objects to the offense claim that means the person doing the objecting has psychological issues.
Um. No, it's not.
It's that offense is not a one-place function any more than sexiness is — but that it is possible to learn what a particular person finds offensive (or, for that matter, sexy) and apply that knowledge to improve your social relations with that person. Moreover, that doing so is probably more useful than whining about someone calling your actions offensive (or, for that matter, unsexy).
From Julian Sanchez, a brilliant idea unlikely to be implemented: