Agreed that he shouldn't have published the logs without seeking permission from any of the people involved. I do think it was legitimate (praiseworthy, even) for him to publish your comments without your permission. It is in the interest of this community that behavior of the sort you exhibited be curtailed. You did not respond well to his attempts to convey this to you on the IRC. Bringing this to the attention of the community at large, in the hope that the added pressure will have an impact, seems like an appropriate next step.

The violation of privacy is a concern, sure, but in this context it is outweighed by other factors. I mean the violation of your privacy, not the others involved. The violation of their privacy was unnecessary and an unmitigated bad thing, and startling should have been more careful about that, but your bringing that up in response to Alicorn's comment just comes across as petty: "Yeah, but look at what he did!".

I've already said as much.

Here's what I was trying to say: If you genuinely recognized and cared about the negative impact beliefs like yours have had on the lives of trans people, then even if you could not control the fact that you have those beliefs you would refrain from airing them in any public forum, no matter how ephemeral, where there is a non-negligible chance they will be read by trans people or by cis people who know and love trans people. The utility boost you get from posting those comments, if any, is dwarfed by the expected harm. You not only expressed those beliefs, but when startling clearly indicated he found them offensive, you proceeded to double down on them.

I was hoping for an acknowledgment that this behavior was extremely ill-considered. The fact that you consider "I don't do it that often and I only do it on IRC" an adequate defense indicates you haven't really acknowledged (to yourself, even) the extent to which your comments differ from innocuous expressions of idiosyncratic preferences like, say, "Rationalists creep me out." Perhaps you didn't intend your comment to be a defense but it really reads that way to me.

ETA: You're probably right that startling's behavior is a clearer violation of Freenode rules than yours, but this is a pretty peripheral issue as far as I am concerned.