Several Internet people have reported that if someone doesn't tell you "My family is horribly fucked up and I spent most of my childhood in excruciating suffering of some kind, and if I tried to tell my parents about it they called me mean names" it means you don't know them well enough yet. I have no idea how to fix that, but it seems worth keeping in mind, and perhaps increasing the weight of "my kid is sincerely hurt by things I consider trivial" relative to "my kid is a selfish whiny attention whore with no sense of proportion", even if the latter turns out to be true of kids in general.
By the way, there is no contradiction -- even the selfish whiny attention whores with no sense of proportion can be sincerely hurt by things you consider trivial.
Less Wrong Parents
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Recently the NYC LW/OB community had two babies and is expecting a third.
I created a google group as a way of sharing information, primarily thinking of the NYC community.
I posted my pre-baby purchase list and William Eden posted an extensive list of books on early parenting.
William suggested opening up the group so as to get insight from the larger LW community on parenting.
I think this is *probably* a good idea. Google groups are simple to set up but have limits.
For this reason I request that if you are going to have an extensive debate on a subject you create a new thread (aka: get a room)
The primary objective is to lower the cost of obtaining information on parenting.
I believe this overall goal to be more important then any particular "truth".
My hope is that this will primarily serve as a place for people to ask parenting question and post guides.
Perhaps if enough guides are posted they can eventually be consolidated into a wiki.