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Comment author: Viliam_Bur 15 February 2013 01:37:21PM *  1 point [-]

The numbers ("95%", "50%" in your example) are good to illustrate the differences. But sometimes hard to obtain.

For example when I read the part about other people reinterpreting a person's self-description, my first reaction was: but that happens to me, too; by men and by women. (And I find it annoying, too. On the other hand, I find many people annoying in many ways, and this specific one is not among the worst examples.) But there could be a difference in frequency. Maybe for an average man it happens once in a month, and for an average women once in an hour. That would certainly explain the different reactions! Problem is I can't even provide a good estimate for myself. (Which is an evidence that is happens rarely.)

but when they're skeptical about things I say about myself, this is ingratiating.

I suspect this sentence is missing a 'not.'

See, you're doing it again!

:D

Comment author: Vaniver 15 February 2013 05:37:43PM 2 points [-]

The numbers ("95%", "50%" in your example) are good to illustrate the differences. But sometimes hard to obtain.

Indeed, which is why I made them up! :P

Problem is I can't even provide a good estimate for myself.

I can think of one time when this happened to me and was annoying, about 2 months ago. Every other time that I can remember when someone has contradicted one of my self-assessments, I've responded positively, because I enjoy getting feedback about myself.