FWIW, I am a man, but I too find the Less Wrong community to be emotionally detached and unfriendly. That's why I like it. If my beliefs are wrong, then it's critical that I discover this as soon as possible, and it's refreshing to know that at least some of the thoughts I post will be combed through by unfriendly people who are determined to tear them apart -- on an intellectual rather than emotional level.

Furthermore, if I told people, "I'm more of a thinker than a feeler" (or vice versa), and they consistently responded with, "no dude, you're definitely more of a feeler" (ditto), I'd consider this valuable information, and ask to see some evidence. I know how I personally see myself, but that's just one data point, and an unreliable one at that.

Edited to add:

I should clarify that I'm speaking purely for myself here -- and not for all men, all LWers, all male LWers, or anything of the sort.