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Comment author: maia 12 April 2013 01:01:38AM 6 points [-]

It's more socially acceptable for a woman to suggest a man should be castrated, emasculated ...

This is true in my social circle, but I'm not at all confident that it is true in most.

It is more socially acceptable for a woman to sexually assault a man.

This is not true in my social circle. Again, not sure about others.

These things happen regularly without comment or outrage in our society.

Again speaking for my own social circle only: Things like this are generally said in jest. My guess is that it is more acceptable to joke about this because it is less of a serious problem than male-on-female assault/rape.

But, I'm not convinced at all that this is typical.

Comment author: OrphanWilde 12 April 2013 03:19:15AM 12 points [-]

Wedding Crashers. Yes Man. 40 Days and Nights (although in that case, there was a bit of popular backlash).

I'm not going to go through cases for the first thing you quoted.

But it's not limited to speech. If a woman hits me, most witnesses will assume I deserved it; I did or said something they didn't see. If I hit a woman - well. Men who have called 911 after being assaulted by their wives or girlfriends frequently find -themselves- locked up.

Comment author: NancyLebovitz 12 April 2013 03:33:19AM 16 points [-]

The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker is an interesting example. He starts by explaining that he became fascinated by finding out how to predict threat levels because his mother was extremely violent. The rest of the book assumes that an aggressor will be male.

The Emotional Terrorist and the Violence-Prone by Erin Pizzey is her account of starting one of the first domestic violence shelters in the British Isles, and being surprised to find that a bit over half the women were habitually violent themselves. I've heard confirming information from at least one other source. This doesn't mean you should assume that any women who reports violence in her marriage is partly at fault-- note that the odds are close to even.

I think women who are domestically violent against men are a serious problem, and it's going to take a lot of men speaking up (something which is quite difficult, and not just because of feminists) to get any sort of a solution.