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Comment author: Error 19 April 2013 08:47:35PM 2 points [-]

B doesn't really give any evidence at all, and the resulting uncertainty is creepy/awkward/uncomfortable. It makes women uneasy, because they aren't sure of his intentions. If they knew he liked them, they might be able to update him on whether or not they do. If they knew he didn't, then they could relax. But not knowing sucks.

Oddly, I have exactly this complaint from the other end; I want to condition my actions on whether or not a woman has any interest (show some myself if so, otherwise leave her alone) but can't correctly evaluate the conditional unless it's made explicit, which no one ever does.

Comment author: malcolmocean 20 April 2013 03:46:30AM 2 points [-]

I totally know this feeling. Not sure what to do about it except developing the skill of friendly flirting... which I realize is hardly easy. If you do the flirting part right and you're otherwise presentable, then you probably won't appear "creepy" unless you persist far too long.