I've found that paying attention to how much "signs of love" and "access to me for resources" correlate is useful in my relationships.
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But I'm also polyamorous so distance tends not to be nearly as big an obstacle as it seems to be for monogamy
How do you implement that? You just simply tell a girl you like that you have multiple relationships?
I usually say I'm polyamorous, because most polyamorous people know the term, but otherwise yeah. I also live in Portland, and hang out with crowds where this is more common than normal. I did end up dating one monogamous girl, but she was completely okay with it - work occupied 90% of her life, and having a partner that didn't mind seeing her once or twice a month worked out very nicely for her.
I generally bring this up well before asking someone out, so that I can get a good feel for their reaction (often first or second meeting - just talking about my l...
Information that surprises you is interesting as it exposes where you have been miscalibrated, and allows you to correct for that.
I suspect the users of LessWrong have fairly similar beliefs, so it is probable that information that has surprised you would surprise others here, so it would be useful for them if you shared them.
Example: In a discussion with a friend recently I realised I had massively miscalibrated on the percentage of the UK population who shared my beliefs on certain subjects, in general the population was far more conservative than I had expected.
In retrospect I was assuming my own personal experience was more representative than it was, even when attempting to correct for that.