Suggestion: I recommend sending people their deleted posts.
I used to do that for a long time on a large-ish subreddit I mod. Eventually, it became too much of a burden, the workload footprint was too large. It may be a feasible policy to try and do that on LW, given the (hopefully) very low volume of deleted content.
This sounds a like something that could be handled by a script so as to be an utterly transparent process. In your role as a subreddit mod, it wouldn't be so easy, but they have source access.
http://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Deletion_policy
This is my attempt to codify the informal rules I've been working by.
I'll leave this post up for a bit, but strongly suspect that it will have to be deleted not too long thereafter. I haven't been particularly encouraged to try responding to comments, either. Nonetheless, if there's something I missed, let me know.