It could be that people count different things as sex. Intercourse always counts, but any other act that can cause orgasm (and quite a few that can't) are counted as sex by some people and not by some others. Can't see why men would have a wider view of what counts than women, though; I'd expect the reverse.
(and quite a few that can't)
Like what?
From The New York Times:
So how sketchy is the research on human sexual behavior, anyway?