Just a note: Different people have different dates. Probably the worst (but usually the first that comes into mind) kind is the "awkward silence in a romantic restaurant" kind of date. This works best in Hollywood movies, and perhaps for experienced seducers who don't feel any anxiety and can easily manage social situations. (For them, this is good signalling, but that's precisely because it is costly. And I don't speak about the costs of the dinner here.)
As an alternative, I would recommend a "doing something fun together" kind of a date. Something that (you can pretend) you would do alone and have fun doing it, too, but today you altruistically decided to offer her an opportunity to join you and have fun too. (Feel the difference? You are not begging, you are offering.) Do a short internet research: is there any gallery exhibition, or music concert, or public lecture, or whatever interesting in your town the next week? (Or simply ask other people what interesting activity would they recommend you the next week. You don't have to explain why you need it. Maybe there is an information service you can call for exactly this info.) Choose something that interests you, so you will be relaxed, and later you can talk about it. She may also feel less pressure on this kind of a date.
(Beware of other-optimization, et cetera. If romantic dinners work for you, just continue doing what works. Although trying something new in addition probably would not hurt.)
A friend suggested exactly this before I asked her out. But, uh, I almost never go to galleries or lectures, or concerts unless I really really like the band, and I don't particularly want to change that.
I'm starting to think there may be other activities (video games at home? hikes? board games unfortunately don't really work as an "I'm going to be doing this anyway, join me if you feel like it" thing) that will work for me, though.
I started going out with a fantastic girl a couple of weeks ago. Everything is great, except that whenever I've sent her a text message or email requesting something and haven't received a response yet, I experience significant dysphoric anxiety, fearing that her response will be not just "no" but "no and I don't want to date you any more". This is due to brain chemistry or personal history, take your pick—either seems like a possible explanation to me. But there's certainly no evidence supporting the idea that this is likely to happen, nor is the anxiety helping me prevent it or helping me in any other way.
Does anyone have evidence-based advice, or pointers to same, on dealing with this kind of issue? It is the only splotch on what have otherwise been the best two weeks of my life.