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DanArmak comments on Boring Advice Repository - Less Wrong Discussion

56 Post author: Qiaochu_Yuan 07 March 2013 04:33AM

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Comment author: DanArmak 11 March 2013 10:35:10AM 14 points [-]

It's a refusal to participate in ritualized social bonding, and that signals you aren't willing to relax around other people and don't consider them to be part of your social in-group. If you're not drinking, that may also mean you get to keep your guard up while everyone else is saying and doing silly or even forbidden things.

I can't drink because of my medications, and I always get teased about it. "Come on, just one shot is fine..."

Comment author: buybuydandavis 12 March 2013 12:59:11PM 1 point [-]

Or it signals that you are comfortable asserting your own values in contradiction to a group. That's a very positive signal to me, but probably generally negative.

Comment author: BlazeOrangeDeer 14 March 2013 05:18:25AM 3 points [-]

Or maybe they think that your non-drinking is not a value of yours, but a value of another group that you are choosing over theirs.

Comment author: bbleeker 11 March 2013 07:04:31PM 0 points [-]

Interesting. I knew people think that way in Japan (I was thinking about asking sixesandsevens if they were Japanese), but there, people don't mind if you actually do silly/forbidden things when you're drunk (or so I've heard).