It's entirely possible that you're talking about a completely different usage of these terms, but they certainly seem to have legitimate usage. Telling, say, a PTSD-sufferer to "just update already" would not be productive.
There are plenty of events in my life that are not presently salient. No-one I ever meet from now on will know what I looked like in secondary school, or remember any of the embarrassing things I said when I was nineteen. That stupid debate I had eight years ago with some dude on a tech forum does not matter. The arguments I had with my ex are about things that only exist in the past. I know this, but on some level my brain thinks they're still happening, and I can't just "update" them away.
I've had an pretty easy and inconsequential life, so I can only imagine how hard it would be to have genuinely traumatic events rumbling around up there.
Is this the context you were talking about?
It's entirely possible that you're talking about a completely different usage of these terms, but they certainly seem to have legitimate usage. Telling, say, a PTSD-sufferer to "just update already" would not be productive.
I agree that when someone is in the thick of something like that, there's no point in telling them to just get over it. In that context it would be the sort of useless and obnoxious advice that consists of telling someone with a problem that they just need to solve the problem.
However, it is possible to get over things effe...
We recently established a successful Useful Concepts Repository. It got me thinking about all the useless or actively harmful concepts I had carried around for in some cases most of my life before seeing them for what they were. Then it occurred to me that I probably still have some poisonous concepts lurking in my mind, and I thought creating this thread might be one way to discover what they are.
I'll start us off with one simple example: The Bohr model of the atom as it is taught in school is a dangerous thing to keep in your head for too long. I graduated from high school believing that it was basically a correct physical representation of atoms. (And I went to a *good* high school.) Some may say that the Bohr model serves a useful role as a lie-to-children to bridge understanding to the true physics, but if so, why do so many adults still think atoms look like concentric circular orbits of electrons around a nucleus?
There's one hallmark of truly bad concepts: they actively work against correct induction. Thinking in terms of the Bohr model actively prevents you from understanding molecular bonding and, really, everything about how an atom can serve as a functional piece of a real thing like a protein or a diamond.
Bad concepts don't have to be scientific. Religion is held to be a pretty harmful concept around here. There are certain political theories which might qualify, except I expect that one man's harmful political concept is another man's core value system, so as usual we should probably stay away from politics. But I welcome input as fuzzy as common folk advice you receive that turned out to be really costly.