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Comment author: Qiaochu_Yuan 13 July 2013 05:37:48AM *  6 points [-]

Yeah, it was deliberately vague so I'd get answers to a wide variety of possible interpretations. To be more specific, I have trouble figuring out what my opening line should be in situations where I'm not sure what the social script for introducing myself is, e.g. to women at a bar (I'm a straight male). My impression is that "hi, can I buy you a drink?" is cliché but I don't know what reasonable substitutes are.

Comment author: [deleted] 13 July 2013 09:58:58AM *  5 points [-]

My impression is that "hi, can I buy you a drink?" is cliché but I don't know what reasonable substitutes are.

"Hi, what's your name?" or "Hi, I'm Qiaochu" (depending on the cultural context, e.g. ISTM the former is more common in English and the latter is more common in Italian). Ain't that what nearly any language course whatsoever teaches you to say on Lesson 1? ;-)¹

Or, if you're in a venue where that's appropriate, "wanna dance?" (not necessarily verbally).

(My favourite is to do something awesome in their general direction and wait for them to introduce themselves/each other to me, but it's not as reliable.)


  1. I think I became much more confident in introducing myself to strangers in English or Italian after being taught explicitly how to do that in Irish (though there are huge confounders).
Comment author: gjm 13 July 2013 01:50:11PM 11 points [-]

I conjecture that "Hi, I'm Qiaochu" is a very uncommon greeting in Italian :-).