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Comment author: CoffeeStain 13 July 2013 11:17:35PM 9 points [-]

How do I get people to like me? It seems to me that this is a worthwhile goal; being likable increases the fun that both I and others have.

My issue is that likability usually means, "not being horribly self-centered." But I usually find I want people to like me more for self-centered reasons. It feels like a conundrum that just shouldn't be there if I weren't bitter about my isolation in the first place. But that's the issue.

Comment author: Sarokrae 14 July 2013 09:01:42AM 5 points [-]

I second what gothgirl said; but in case you were looking for more concrete advice:

  1. Exchange compliments. Accept compliments graciously but modestly (e.g. "Thanks, that's kind of you").
  2. Increase your sense of humour (watching comedy, reading jokes) until it's at population average levels, if it's not there.
  3. Practise considering other people's point of view.
  4. Do those three things consciously for long enough that you start doing them automatically.

At least, that's what worked for me when I was younger. Especially 1 actually, I think it helped with 3.

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