Human social interaction, more specifically talking, is ordinary. Force enters the picture after someone has clearly said "No, I don't want to do this / I'm not interested / etc" and not before.
This would only be true if there did not exist social norms which discourage such responses. But there are, so what you say is not true. In fact, you introducing yourself to me on a plan in the manner described near the top of this thread is inherently forceful, even if you do not recognize it as such.
Otherwise, you're trying to make the person approaching you responsible for your internal state -- A frame I similarly have no compunction about utterly rejecting. You're responsible for your state, they are responsible for theirs.
People are "responsible for" my mental state in the same sense they are "responsible for" my physical state: if someone punches me and then, when I protest, says "Yeah, well, I'm not responsible for your state!", that's rather disingenuous, don't you think?
You don't communicate perfectly, so if you're trying to (implicitly, not explicitly) communicate 'not interested' and they are receiving a different message, well, chances are your communication failed. Which is primarily your responsibility.
That's certainly a very convenient position to take if what you want is to be able to force interaction on others and not incur social disapproval. "What's that? He didn't want me to accost him and start chatting him up? Well I guess he should have communicated that better, now shouldn't he?"
Look, it's true that we often communicate badly; illusion of transparency and all that. But to take this as general license for plowing ahead and leaving behind any attempt to consider your fellow human beings' preferences until such time as they expend significant emotional energy to make them clear to you — that is simply inconsiderate, to say the least. (And this is coming from someone on the autism spectrum, who, I assure you, understands very well the difficulty of divining the mental states of other humans!)
Overall my impression is that you have this axe to grind about being 'forced' but really no-one except you is talking about force here.
Not talking about force does not magically cause there to not be any force.
Finally, I once again note...
when two people manage to really genuinely communicate, something is created which transcends either of them, and this draws them both out of their own preconceived frames.
... that you talk about social interaction as if it's this wonderful and amazing thing that, obviously, everyone should want, because it's obviously so wonderful.
Not everyone feels that way.
People are "responsible for" my mental state in the same sense they are "responsible for" my physical state: if someone punches me and then, when I protest, says "Yeah, well, I'm not responsible for your state!", that's rather disingenuous, don't you think?
What it is is an absurd equivocation. Punching someone in the face is not the same as introducing yourself to them.
r/Fitness does a weekly "Moronic Monday", a judgment-free thread where people can ask questions that they would ordinarily feel embarrassed for not knowing the answer to. I thought this seemed like a useful thing to have here - after all, the concepts discussed on LessWrong are probably at least a little harder to grasp than those of weightlifting. Plus, I have a few stupid questions of my own, so it doesn't seem unreasonable that other people might as well.