People are "responsible for" my mental state in the same sense they are "responsible for" my physical state: if someone punches me and then, when I protest, says "Yeah, well, I'm not responsible for your state!", that's rather disingenuous, don't you think?
What it is is an absurd equivocation. Punching someone in the face is not the same as introducing yourself to them.
Of course it's not the same. But the framing of "Is it ok to interact with a person in this way I find enjoyable if they might not." is the part that's important. I am currently seeing a person who is masochistic. When she was a child, she literally had NO IDEA that punching people was not ok because they did not enjoy it the way she would. Said is overemphasizing but the point that a social interaction can be negative and stressful for someone EVEN if you think it's always an awesome thing is an important thing to recognize. I think on net most ...
r/Fitness does a weekly "Moronic Monday", a judgment-free thread where people can ask questions that they would ordinarily feel embarrassed for not knowing the answer to. I thought this seemed like a useful thing to have here - after all, the concepts discussed on LessWrong are probably at least a little harder to grasp than those of weightlifting. Plus, I have a few stupid questions of my own, so it doesn't seem unreasonable that other people might as well.