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I think it's the influence of San Francisco
More seriously: I think it follows perfectly well from rationality which is at it's core about doing non obvious things that result in better outcomes once you do the math. Obviously it comes down to preferences but many people seem to prefer multiple partners and only refrain because society condemns it. Polyamkry is more honest than cheating and more preference satisfying than monogamy for those with poly amorous inclinations.
Plus there's all the conveniences.
Nitpicky tangent:
Don't neglect the obvious things that result in better outcomes.
You're either already doing those or they're not actually obvious.
Objection! They might be obvious, and you're failing to do them out of akrasia or similar.
Not that that's ever happened to me. <twitch>
Historical note: Started in OBNYC and spread to the Bay.
More specific benefits: you can get sex more often with less scheduling disruptions
You can have mutually fulfilling partial relationships that would not be sustainable if they had to be monogamous. Eg: someone can get most of their affection from you but indulge their foot fetish with someone else. Or if you simply have a different sex drive than your partner.
More widespread emotional support network. If you're prone to loneliness, having more people you can connect with will help you not lean all your metaphorical weight on one person
Less inhibition: depending on the rules of your polyamory you no longer have to kill your own urges when seeing someone attractive to you. This may be a downside if you want to get work done.
If one or more of you is bi you get to talk about people you find hot and seducing them to your bed. This is lots of fun.
Less stress: the converse of 3, you don't have to b the entire emotional support for another person.
If a polyamorous group is sharing a household, there are more skills and there's more likely to be someone who doesn't hate a particular chore.
And the somewhat different claim: sharing a household with people is good for that and other reasons and polyamory can make that go more smoothly