I don't help people because of empathy for them. I just want to help them. It's a terminal value for me that other people be happy. I do feel empathy, but that's not why I help people.
Your utility function needn't be your own personal happiness! It can be anything you want!
No it can't. You don't get to choose your utility function.
But anyway I was responding to rationalnoodles as someone who clearly doesn't seem to understand wanting to help people.
If it's worth saying, but not worth its own post (even in Discussion), then it goes here.