Hm. So I think I reinvented the wheel to moderate success, then. In the blind, no-communication case, you play the bargaining equilibrium. With communication via source code, though, I didn't make my wheel - following the bargaining equilibrium among strategies - very round. This is because you can use your source codes to send two random numbers, which lets you cooperate with the other player. But there are many different possible ways of doing this, each corresponding to a different equilibrium.
To have any chance of cooperating, and thus beating my slightly non-round wheel, you need a prior over opponents to let you narrow down the search for cooperation schemes (probably "pick the simplest"), and you need to randomize over the multiple remaining equilibria. And no cliqueishness here, since we're trying to play blind.
Suppose that Red got to move first. There are some games where moving first is terrible - take Rock Paper Scissors for example. But in this game, moving first is great, because you get to narrow down your opponent's options! If Red goes first, Red picks 'A', and then Blue has to pick 'B' to get a cookie.
This is basically kidnapping. Red has taken all three cookies hostage, and nobody gets any cookies unless Blue agrees to Red's demands for two cookies. Whoever gets to move first plays the kidnapper, and the other player has to decide whether to accede to their ransom demand in exchange for a cookie.
What if neither player gets to move before the other, but instead they have their moves revealed at the same time?
Pre-Move Chat:
Red: "I'm going to pick A, you'd better pick B."
Blue: "I don't care what you pick, I'm picking A. You can pick A too if you really want to get 0 cookies."
Red: "Okay I'm really seriously going to pick A. Please pick B."
Blue: "Nah, don't think so. I'll just pick A. You should just pick B."
And so on. They are now playing a game of Chicken. Whoever swerves first is worse off, but if neither of them give in, they crash into each other and die and get no cookies.
So, The Question: is it better to play A, or to play B?