There's a risk of using status considerations as a hammer against which everything looks like a nail, but in this context I really do think they're pretty often the right answer. Amy Chua, for example, wasn't forcing her daughters to learn violin or piano (and only those instruments, IIRC) primarily because it builds some vague form of character; she was doing it, consciously or not, because violin and piano are coded as upper-class instruments and learning them is a form of costly signaling. Contrast, say, guitar; becoming a competent guitarist isn't much easier than becoming a competent pianist (I tried both when I was younger, without much success), and any cognitive effects from learning it must be much the same, but it lacks the desired class and personality associations.
A priori, it seems to me that one should engage in activities only if they satisfy at least one of these two conditions:
But investigation we did in connection with our research at Cognito Mentoring led my collaborator Jonah and me to notice that a fair number of people seem attracted to learning things for the sake of learning, although they neither have an internal belief that learning the subject is important, nor a deep interest in learning that specific topic. Some of them then get frustrated that they're unable to make progress on their self-set learning goals, and this may harm their self-esteem (and put them off learning more important things later). Others may experience success that encourages them to learn more things, some of which may be interesting or important. Our page on managing your time generally advises against participating in and focusing on such activities, or at minimum critically considering whether the activities are sufficiently important to justify engaging in them even if one doesn't find them interesting.
However, Jonah and I may be missing important perspectives. I've heard claims that engaging in activities that are neither interesting nor important has intrinsic value -- it helps build character, makes one grow as a person, or it just might turn out to be important.
This school of thinking is reflected in diverse quarters. Tiger Mom Amy Chua famously forced her daughters to learn musical instruments to build their character, even though at least one of her daughters found it a terrible experience, and there was no reason to believe that the activity itself is important. The belief that one should try and learn new things is also widespread (albeit in a very different sort of way) in the rationalistic self-help community.
What's going on? Some possible explanations:
What do you think?