I think you're picking the wrong problem. This doesn't have to be dealt with on the object level. If you're not socially anxious you're social discovery autopilot works fine. One thing that helps me with social anxiety is to visualise myself in the 'close embrace' of Argentine Tango with other people.

I think at some level, social anxiety, particular when it manifests in relation to the opposite sex has to do with misunderstandings about what makes for positive sexual experiences. It's about instinctive interest, awareness and communications of authentic desire to fulfill our drive for autonomy, feelings of competence about what we're doing sexually, and feelings of intimacy, desiredness, loved and respected to fulfill our need to relate to others. When I keep that in mind in non-sexual social settings, I feel myself come in my zone!