The easy way out isn't necessarily the best way out.
How so? You divorced anyway, and got a bunch of suffering and disrespect on top.
If someone advised you that a "desperate effort" of that kind (writing poems, etc.) would help you win back your wife, that person probably shouldn't be giving advice either. As a matter of fact, I think that my advice from the previous comment actually gives you a higher chance of winning someone back, though it's not viewed as a goal. Yes, dumping someone can be difficult because your emotions are strong. It's also a "desperate effort", but of a different kind :-)
'dumping' someone creates a forced choice; a symmetry breaking with all its consequences. The chance of winning her back that way (with all the consequences and further repeat risks down the line) has to be weighted against the consequences of entirely alienating her (which likely involves a break in the family and trauma for the children).
The divorce is real I agree. But it was no fight. We go along OK. Like friendly neighbors (who look after each others kids kind of).
got a bunch of suffering and disrespect on top.
Humans can take that quite well if ...
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