Y'know egocentric bias? Where people think the world revolves around them more than it does? I find that I often see my friend's actions in terms of what they think of me, but I imagine that they're in fact focused on me a lot less, so I would advise trying to discount that idea strongly. If it bothers you more, then just look at your options e.g. Mention it to her, don't mention it to her, think of an experimental test for the hypothesis, etc. Then pick one. Otherwise... Worrying is of course useless if it isn't motivating a useful action, so attempt not to.
Mention it to her, don't mention it to her, think of an experimental test for the hypothesis, etc. Then pick one. Otherwise... Worrying is of course useless if it isn't motivating a useful action, so attempt not to.
Yes, an experimental test is just what I want to create. That should be the useful action motivating my question.
I understand that not discounting for egocentric bias is a form of reduced Pascal's wager: the small chance of a correlation of her behaviour with me specifically has a huge payoff, so I better devote careful effort to discern the probability of this being the case.
However, if the pattern continues, I think that the correlation becomes more and more probable.
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