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Comment author: gjm 13 May 2014 08:29:53PM *  14 points [-]

I am far from an expert in these matters, but would advise against both teasing back and saying explicitly that you interpret the teasing as "treating me worse than usual".

[EDITED to add: To be clear, I mean "don't do both of these together" rather than "both of these are individually bad ideas".]

Comment author: MrMind 14 May 2014 08:13:03AM 0 points [-]

Why not both? What could go especially wrong?

Comment author: palladias 14 May 2014 02:05:09PM 5 points [-]

Because one is playful and the other feels hostile. Doing both at once won't give you a clear sense of what her response is to either. Do them in separate encounters.

Comment author: Lumifer 13 May 2014 08:45:40PM 0 points [-]

Why is teasing back a bad idea?

Comment author: gjm 13 May 2014 09:00:31PM 6 points [-]

Apparently even with my edit I wasn't clear enough. Letting A be "tease back" and B be "mention that she seems to be treating you worse recently", I wasn't saying

  • "don't do A, and don't do B"

but was saying

  • "don't both-do-A-and-do-B".
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