because I don't see the point in adding complications that do not have relevance to the discussion
Your parable is flawed at the core because you made a basic category mistake. Flirting is not an action, not something one person does to another one. It is interaction, something two people do together.
Deciding that one person in that interaction controls the encounter and does things, while the other is just a passive receptacle to the extent that not even her consent is required, never mind active participation, is not a useful framework for looking at how men and women interact.
If it's worth saying, but not worth its own post (even in Discussion), then it goes here.
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