One hint is to not behave like you are higher-status than they believe you to be.
This is a very good idea I wish I were able to follow more often. And since I am not good at learning social skills by copying, an explicit training could be useful.
To be precise, "not behaving higher-status" is relatively easy. The difficult part is to explain an idea contradicting some high-status belief while behaving so. I know it can be done, because I have seen people doing it, but it is so high above my current skill level.
To be precise, "not behaving higher-status" is relatively easy.
The point isn't to never behave in a higher-status matter. If a non-tech person asks you what's wrong with their computer and they know you are a programmer they believe that you have status as far as computer related issues go.
When people behave as if they are lower status then they are believed to be that's also bad. Nobody likes to sit in a lecture by a teacher who thinks he's lower status than his students.
The relevant social skill is to understand what other people expect f...
I was reading reviews of HPMOR on Goodreads and I noticed that the people who didn't like the book were essentially "put off by the rationality". They thought Harry was arrogant and condescending.
Then I was thinking, a lot of people are "put off by rationality" for similar reasons. What a shame. There's a lot of value in spreading rationality, and this seems to be a big obstacle in doing so.
Any thoughts on how to make people less "put off by rationality"? I think the core issues are: