This might go against the grain: I advise people to think more about themselves than others.

Too often I see people working themselves to death with obvious symptoms of fatigue and stress helping their kith and kin beyond any reasonable measure. The more immediate case is the person trying to save something or someone from a fire and dying in the process. They would be better advised to think of themselves, raising their wellbeing and making others more self reliant in the process. Or more effective overall.