I don't need another person to understand me fully. It's perfectly fine that different people have different life philosophies. If you want to effect other people pushing something on them is usually not very effective.
I agree that one should not pin hopes to changing someone else's life philosophy. The specific reason I'm interested in this is because there are people I want to talk to about what I'm thinking about now, but I realize that I can't do that without talking about what I was thinking about three months ago, and I can't talk about that without... But this gap is just going to increase unless I take deliberate steps to decrease it. (This is exactly what you describe later in your post.)
[edit]And, since this wasn't as specific as it could have been, they don't have to agree with my position; my first goal is them knowing my position well enough to make correct predictions about it. If they like it better they'll move on their own.
I'm also realistic about the timeframes involved. I think it's been about a decade since we were fully philosophically compatible, and taking another decade to close that gap seems like it might be necessary.
Giving up the need to have the other person understand you fully opens up a lot of freedom. You can start to listen to the other person. If you see a door that you can open to help a person make an insight you can go for it.
I'm reading this as "haste makes waste; if you learn the other person's philosophy, you get credibility for listening and that knowledge lets you avoid the parts with the most resistance, target the parts that make the easiest jumping-off points for explaining your positions or are the most fertile places for your ideas to grow in. Once that's established--and you'll only know it's established when you listen to them and hear that it's taken root--then their philosophy will have shifted and there will be a new easiest spot." Is that the main spirit of it or is there something I missed?
How easy it is for someone else to be able to make predictions about your actions depends on the way you make decisions.
If you make a decisions based on making a Fermi estimate and then using Bayes theorem a person who has no idea about Fermi estimates or Bayes theorem won't be able to predict your actions. If you have integrated those concepts into your life so that you use them constantly than even a person who has learned Bayes theorem in an university lecture is unlikely to be able to follow. For them it's just something abstract that's used for text b...
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