I used to think that responsible citizens should not fear violence to themselves if other people are being hurt for political beliefs, and go help. I was okay with it, and my husband was okay with it, and we knew and respected this about each other.

Yet when a situation arose when we could go help, with risk of death and injury was orders of magnitude higher than usual workday levels, I asked him to let me go, and he said, if one of us should go, it is not you. (The other would have to stay to babysit.) And so neither of us went.

I think I changed my belief about the relative value of beliefs then. Before, I would have sincerely said that what an (adult) person thinks about themselves should have more weight in determining their actions than what others think about the person. Now, I don't seem to have a sincere answer.