Thanks to Anki - which I was pointed toward repeatedly by LW and after some time got around to use regularly - I can provide some answers quickly just by looking thru the cards with URLs in my Charisma and Appearance deck:

• The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane
• Wisemans 59 seconds
• http://lesswrong.com/lw/jsp/political_skills_which_increase_income/
• imaginary expertise

There were lots of other references that did improve my life in the last two years. Some of those:

• Relationships/Parenting

  • Kazdin (post by me but pointed to by tadamsmar).
  • lukeprogs http://lesswrong.com/lw/63i/rational_romantic_relationships_part_1/
  • MMSL

• Self-Improvement/Other

  • Seligman's What You Can Change and What You Can't (found probably via one of gwerns bibliographies)
  • Lifestyle interventions to increase longevity
  • Procrastination equation
  • The golden rule of habit change
  • steps of rapid skill acquisition
  • Peak-End-Rule
  • The Ten Laws of Shaping
  • breathing techniques
  • Sleep advice

But to a large degree LW also helped by providing a place to think clearly about these topics.