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Comment author: adamzerner 12 February 2015 03:23:49AM 2 points [-]

Does anyone have any tips or advice on how to handle anger and frustration? Particularly anger and frustration from dealing with stupid people. I try to just keep reminding myself that it's simply an optimization problem.

Comment author: ChristianKl 12 February 2015 01:03:47PM 1 point [-]

Focusing by Eugene T. Gendlin is a good framework of handling emotions.

I try to just keep reminding myself that it's simply an optimization problem.

Dealing with your own emotions as an optimization issue is seldom the best approach.

Comment author: adamzerner 12 February 2015 02:42:25PM 0 points [-]

Sorry, I meant that the situation is an optimization problem. Like I'm trying to get something out of the people.

Comment author: ChristianKl 13 February 2015 12:27:07AM 0 points [-]

Like I'm trying to get something out of the people.

That's likely your problem.

Comment author: fubarobfusco 13 February 2015 04:45:52AM -2 points [-]

Here are some different descriptions of a scenario:

  • That person is stupid.
  • That person is making a mistake.
  • That person is not doing what I want them to do.
  • I and that person are failing to come to terms that would be mutually beneficial to us.

Do these elicit different reactions?

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