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Comment author: Lumifer 16 March 2015 04:29:18PM *  7 points [-]

and then she did it and acted hurt and told me she is tired of always needing to tell me

That's pretty classical passive-aggressive behaviour. I don't think it has much to do with guess-vs-ask cultures.

But I agree that there is probably some gender correlation.

Comment author: [deleted] 17 March 2015 08:52:32AM 4 points [-]

Yes, but passive-aggression is what guess-people do when upset, and active-aggression is what ask-people do when upset.

Comment author: Lumifer 17 March 2015 02:39:50PM 1 point [-]

I don't know if I am willing to accept it as a such tight relation. For one thing, being passive-aggressive is usually not one particular action, an outburst when upset, it's more like a an attitude, a continuous inclination/slant/flavour.

I think that passive vs. active aggression depends much more on power, status, and specific circumstances rather than on usually preferred communication styles.