This is one of the harshest truths to swallow

Or, you could look at it as a sign of progress that has been achieved moving away from a savage evolutionary history.

Rollo Tomassi probably takes it way too far when we argues women evolved to actually like this

But the evolutionary pressures are probably in that direction.

but falling in love with the kind of guy who can be a useful protector against kidnappers... the leader-alpha types are more defense than offense oriented IMHO so not that aggressive.

While they wouldn't start with violence, because they would expect submission, I doubt the dominant alpha leaders were in the business of taking no for an answer.