It might be possible to change things (I have limited knowledge) but would probably involve a lot of stress on the part of those involved. And I am unsure as to whether I am obliged to share this information to other parties. while it is truth; it is not helpful truth. (others may see this point differently) (I usually don't care so much for the truth being optimum, but in this case it became part of the churning thoughts)

For clarity:

• benefit of not saying anything is no more stress

• benefit of saying something is more $$$

• disadvantage of not saying anything - its concealing the truth

• disadvantage of saying something - they may not want to know.

(Edit: making neat on formatting)