It shouldn't be the "importance to me", but the importance to everyone and everything. On top of that, dilemmas tend to be about what we have a bias in. The calculus of virtue is a real danger, and unwise. We shouldn't do it, but we do it anyway. Remember, the bright are the most likely to be biased.

The compromise is to at least ask opinion to another person.

"The young man knows the rules, but the old man knows the exceptions." - Oliver Wendell Holmes