Transgenderism is self-identification within a culture, and choosing which groups to identify with. There's not really reconciliation necessary, and although for those of us who regard it [ETA] as problematic [/ETA] including anything unnecessary in your identity at all it may be irksome, it shouldn't be treated any more irksome than non-transgender people choosing to go along with their "default" social identity. (Although personally there's a vague sense that somebody who has considered their identity so much should -know better-, I also know better than to presume that other people's preferences match my own.)