“why can’t you just be a good [insert relevant religion here] boy or girl”

could probably in improved to read:

"Why can't you just be a good conformist"

or

"Why can't you just conform to my belief of what is the best course of action for you here"

Other than that, I like it. I believe this does a good job of explaining a process that probably comes naturally to a lot of people. Making it hard to describe. For conditions such as asbergers it would come in handy where the natural social conditioned process is not always automatically created by the user.