So it seems like it might misbehave interestingly for distributions with oddly asymmetrical tails
Yep; it's not too hard to construct things where the limit doesn't exist. However, all the counterexamples I've found share an interesting property: they're not bounded above by any multiple of a power of (1/x). This might be the key requirement...
pseudomean(X)+pseudomean(Y) = pseudomean(X+Y)
Yes, that's exactly the property I'm looking for.
In a previous post, I looked at some of the properties of using the median rather than the mean.
Inspired by Househalter's comment, it seems we might be able to take a compromise between median and mean. It seems to me that simply taking the mean of the lower quartile, median, and upper quartile would also have the nice features I described, and would likely be closer to the mean.
Furthermore, there's no reason to stop there. We can take the mean of the n-1 n-quantiles.
Two questions:
Note the unlike the median approach, for large enough n, this maximiser will pay Pascal's mugger.