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Comment author: Elo 30 September 2015 07:41:26PM 1 point [-]

A significant matter than is:

easier done with...

I don't think I could say what it is

mostly

a matter of.

You appear to have some idea of what it is of; and what it is "mostly" of. I am interested in what sits on that list and what you find "most" or less "most" significant on that list.

Comment author: Lumifer 30 September 2015 08:06:17PM 1 point [-]

I am not sure what are you asking -- what conditions/factors do I consider to be useful/necessary for successful child upbringing?

Comment author: Elo 30 September 2015 08:18:31PM 1 point [-]

apologies.

what conditions/factors do I consider to be useful/necessary for successful child upbringing?

yes. this.

Comment author: Lumifer 01 October 2015 12:36:59AM *  1 point [-]

Well, that's an awfully general question. Out of factors that you have some influence over (as opposed to e.g. your own IQ or temperament):

First, good genes. Yes, you can't change yours but you have a choice of a set out of which the second half will be picked. Use it wisely :-)

Second, money in its usual function of being able to get you what you need including such things as e.g. safety and, to a limited extent, time. Of course there are the usual problems in that money itself is commonly a trade-off against your own time and stress, so this is highly dependent on the circumstances. But children are expensive :-/

Third, a support network of relatives and friends (hopefully including your spouse).

Fourth, later, a good street/school environment.

Of course, people managed to bring up kids lacking all of the above, so it's not a set of necessary things, only useful ones.