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ChristianKl comments on Open thread, Oct. 19 - Oct. 25, 2015 - Less Wrong Discussion

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Comment author: ChristianKl 22 October 2015 04:05:33PM 1 point [-]

Men (with asperg syndrome)...may suffer feelings of inadequacy if they appear to be performing less well than the women that are around them..

If you idealize a woman and seek the perfect woman, you will appear to be performing less well than your image of the person. To avoid that effect it's good to have a relationship with a person where you also see their flaws and you both can be open about your flaws.

Comment author: Clarity 22 October 2015 09:54:37PM 1 point [-]

I had never contemplated this perspective before you suggested it, and it's immediately compelling. Thank you.