I don't know any and I'd actually go in with skepticism about any I find. That applies to men too, and they seem to fall to all the silliness as well.

The only golden rules I can confirm is that if the book doesn't tell you: 1. Keep your apperance in order: This means your weight, your fashion sense, basically everything the beholder sees. 2. Keep your personality in order: Unless you get naked pretty quick, I can't see any self-respecting guy staying with a vain woman.

Now that's just a simplification. I can't help you with the first, and for the second, you should just sit down with yourself and list the things you want or like to do.

Not much more I can add and I'm not a good enough writer to expand on this. Try lukeprog or HughRistik. (not sure if he's active, though)